Diary Entry 8 💋

My ex wants to be friends, but I’m still healing. Am I being petty for saying no?

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Of course not! You're not being petty at all, you're being honest with yourself about what you need to heal and that’s one of the most important things you can do after a breakup. Taking care of yourself and your heart should be your number one priority. You are absolutely within your right to ask for space and time to heal. Ending a relationship, even amicably, can leave emotional bruises that need time and care to mend. Rushing into a friendship with someone you're still emotionally tangled with can make healing harder, not easier.

If someone isn’t respecting your need for space, that’s a fault with them, not a reflection of your character. Boundaries are acts of self-respect, not weapons or pain devices. Sit with yourself and your feelings and decide what is best for you. Give yourself time to fall out of love completely and then decide if this friendship is still something you want, sometimes we can still be blinded by love and feel like we need the friendship still, when maybe we have outgrown. 

Then, communicate your feeling clearly and kindly. Something like:
“I appreciate that you want to stay friends, and maybe in the future we can. But right now, I need some time and distance to heal. I hope you can respect that.” Speak from your truth, with your best interests and healing in mind, anyone who truly cares about your well-being will understand.

Healing is not linear, and you’re allowed to take all the time you need, no apologies, no guilt, no explanations beyond what you’re comfortable giving.Take care of you first. That’s not petty, that's self-love. 

Sending you lots of love and positive energy in your healing xx

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